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What Makes a True Friend
We all have friends. A lot gets talked about with friendships. Everyone wants a true friend, and many of us believe that we have a friend who can be called a true friend.
What kind of relations do friends share?
When we can call a friend a true friend, and when our friends take us as their true friend it is an amazing mutual bond that can last lifetime.
After a romantic relationship, friendships are the most important relationships we can have. Though all of us have family and distant family, most of us rely on friends for advice, comfort, and inspiration.
How do we define a relation that can be called as one of true friendship?
The very first sign of a very good friend, not necessarily a true friend is that we are not worried about courtesies. You will call your friend at any hour and talk without any thought of time in your mind.
Similarly, whenever you need support, you will call a very good friend and ask him/her to help you out. They expect the same from you. Another important trait of such relations is that we are not much worried about talking about ourselves.
We speak about everything in our minds without worrying about what our friends will think. We are sure that they will take our talk in the spirit it was made. We are unguarded and open with friends in our talk.
A true friend is a little more than a very good friend. A true friend will support you even if it hurts his/her own interest.
A true friend will understand your motives and needs and will be with you without any analysis or criticism.
A true friend will come forward to help without any request and be with us in need without showing it or expecting anything in return.
With a true friend, you can be sure that you will get help to the extent possible by him/her. Nothing will remain unturned.
A mother is a true friend of her children. If we share such relations with an adult we can say that we are true friends.
A true friend makes no excuses but will be with you whenever you need him/her. In your hour of desperation, a true friend will support you even if you feel the whole world opposes you.
We all experience at some point that we feel the world is against us but it is not true.
A true friend is not an opportunist. A true friend means to have someone who is like a mother, as I said earlier. Instead of having hundreds of good friends, if you have a true friend, count yourself lucky.
If you can also become a true friend of someone, you will be blessed, because it is much easier for all of us to expect but very difficult to give. Be a true friend yourself first.
What creates negative energy? Why do we let it try so hard to make you feel invaluable?
Never in a million years does it mean we ourselves are invaluable. The truth is when the people close to you consistently hurt you, and sometimes it may appear to be for no reason, it could simply mean they are fighting battles of their own and in a bad mood there and then in which case forgiving and forgetting is a testament and it can always be fixed.
On the other hand, some people you think the world of may appear to think they are better than you and show you no respect and mistake your kindness as weakness.
The truth is that energy is weaker and a mistake so many of us often make. If you follow that mentality there will always be someone better than you so we must believe in ourselves. Never doubt yourself, your love, your kindness, or your personality. The kinder person will always come out of the situation on top and the universe will always be on their side, so always choose the path of love and forgiveness, not fear even if it is something you don’t want to do, make peace with your past so it doesn’t effect your future. It feels so much better.
What to look out for
Distance yourself from those who don’t respect you.
Distance yourself from those who lie to you
Distance yourself from those who use you.
Distance yourself from those who put you down.
Not everyone will understand the same version of yourself. Think of it this way. Some people may say how beautifully kind-hearted caring and amazing a person you are while others may tell you how nasty you are.
You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped and won’t help themselves, you can’t help someone up if they don’t want to go up. No matter what you think you can do you can’t but the reverse is not the same. Toxic people will bring you down.
They should believe them both. We don’t treat people differently we treat them accordingly so in the famous words of the late Caroline Flack “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”
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