How To Have Natural Confidence

When trying to understand what we are trying to achieve with our confidence, we must first take a look at ourselves and understand what it is we feel we are lacking. Ask yourself questions such as ”what would the impact of confidence be on your life?” If confidence is already within you then ask yourself which areas of your life you have and where you do not.
What situations is it you actually want confidence for? Once you ask yourself these questions, take a look at how or why having confidence in these areas would change it.If you are someone who truly lacks confidence, we all have one person in our lives who we think at times are full of confidence and we can look up to them. Try to think of this person. How do they talk? How do they move? and what is their use of personality like for non-verbal communication? Picture yourself also in these situations and then ask yourself what is that you do differently?Roleplay as if you too were there in these situations and try to act in a similar way. There are so many small things we don’t necessarily see as confidence related to ourselves but they are always things that will help others perceive you as a confident individual, such as the way you stand, walk, talk, and feel. Let this confidence flow through you and see if you interact any differently to where you previously thought you lacked confidence.Remember that this is not something that should be done as a one-off but a whole new self-routine needs to be established. Get used to this new self you have identified and be yourself around people that you already have confidence with so that later this can be extended to new people.Make some small changes that will help you to build on this new you. set achievable goals. What would you like to do with this new confidence? what has it enabled you to do that you couldn’t think you could do previously? and think positively about these experiences.If you find yourself in a position where you feel things haven’t quite gone the way you had hoped, don’t give up but treat it as a learning exercise. It’s ok to fail. Change the perception of how you do. Do you fear rejection or do you fear failure? Do you take criticism to heart and ignore the positive criticisms too?Remember that this is not an exercise whereby you are constantly seeking other people’s approval. Don’t overwhelm yourself with goals you know you cannot achieve but set realistic ones that don’t bring you down. It doesn’t matter if people do not approve of you. There will always be someone who doesn’t approve of you even the best in society has people who do not approve of them that’s just life and perfectly normal.You are the center of your own reality in exactly the same way as they are the center of theirs. Chances are they not see the same faults as you do which tells us some of these faults are purely overthought by yourself unnecessarily or it simply means they do not care which in itself gives them the confidence to do positive things.Seek the smaller wins and further down the line you will notice the larger ones fall into place naturally. Be confident in your mindset and make sure that you do not view absolutely everything as negative. There will always be something negative but the most confident people turn this into a positive experience. It’s ok to downplay your impact on others sometimes but don’t do it to yourself. Love yourself it’s ok to admit your mistakes.Take risks, set small goals, accomplish and remember, if you fail you always have the ability to pick yourself back up again.